I received a lovely surprise from my aunt the other week, a new book, “The Boy, The Mole, The Fox and The Horse” written by Charlie Mackesy. This book is filled with beautiful illustrations and words of wisdom.
I have an older blog post, “Entry Seven- Asking for Help” that talks about my struggle asking for help (I think that this is a common struggle shared by every mom). My new book inspired me to re-visit this topic. Why is it so hard to ask for help??
” ‘What is the bravest thing you’ve ever said?’ asked the boy. ‘Help’ said the horse. ‘When have you been at your strongest?’ asked the boy. ‘When I have dared to show my weakness. Asking fo help isn’t giving up said the horse. It’s refusing to give up.'”
I love that… “Asking for help isn’t giving up… it is refusing to give up.”
So why is it so hard?
I have shared how I used to be terrified of being alone with my kids. My husband took 2 weeks off from work after my daughter was born. I remember the day that my husband returned to work and I thought to myself “I just have to make it 8 hours” (until he gets home).
Maybe some parents have this innate sense of confidence to care for their child. I don’t think that I ever have. Even with my perfectly typical daughter.
I have had to ask for help several times and I will never forget who showed up for us.