Author Archives: LanaMecoy

Divorce, obviously a very sensitive subject. I have never thought about divorce. No one in my entire family is divorced. It is something that I am unfamiliar with. So why did I decide to talk about it? Because I learned that the divorce rate amongst couples raising a child with special needs is 70%!! RaisingContinue reading “Entry Thirty Six- Divorce…”

I can’t take credit for the title. Someone in one of the online support groups that I peruse used “a million tiny losses” to describe what grief feels like to a parent of a special needs child. I thought that it was a perfect descriptor. Grief is the “response to loss”(wikipedia)…”a deep and poignant distress”Continue reading “Entry Thirty Five- A Million Tiny Losses”

“The greatest sources of our suffering are the lies we tell ourselves”…”people can never get better without knowing what they know and feeling what they feel” (The Body Keeps The Score by Bessel Van Der Kolk) This rings true for me. I will forever be grateful for having access to my social worker. She helpedContinue reading “Entry Thirty Four- The Lies I Tell Myself”

My worry is different from your worry. It is not more than or less than but different. I think that I am now in an emotional place where I can understand this. This wasn’t always the case. I used to be unable to see beyond my own sense of worry and even though I neverContinue reading “Entry Thirty Three- My Worry vs Your Worry”

I have conditioned myself to come up with an excuse for anything, to avoid a situation, to stay inside my bubble of comfort. I need to condition myself to come up with reasons why instead. I mentioned in an earlier post (Entry Twenty Eight) that I have a lot of fears. One of my fearsContinue reading “Entry Thirty Two- Excuses”

My previous blog post I commented on how I try to manage a day at home with no appointments and with my daughter at school. These days are predictable and in that sense are a lot easier. I wanted to also share how I try to manage my appointment days. Right after we learned ofContinue reading “Entry Thirty One- My Day Part II”

A couple of people have messaged me asking how I schedule my day to “fit it all in”. Most importantly, I want to make it clear that I struggle everyday to accomplish what I want to accomplish and many days I am unable to get it all done. It is busy being a mom, especiallyContinue reading “Entry Thirty- My Day”